Mortality

Over the last 5 years I have been through a great deal regarding the passing of my mom and my mother-in-law. I saw up close what it is like to lose someone you care about. The end result is the easy part, it is the time leading up to the end that is the challenge.

As I get older, I'm 55, I am acutely aware of my mortality. Why do you think I'm taking responsibility for my health? Seeing a loved one go through the pain and suffering is something I wouldn't wish on anyone. You have this helpless feeling and it becomes frustrating because you can't take the pain or discomfort away. Our jobs are to be there for support, emotional and spiritual.

Yesterday, I lost another person that meant a great deal to me. He was my father-in-law for 14 years and I truly cared about him as if he were my own father. The most wonderful, kind, intelligent, loving man you would ever want to meet. A successful doctor in Scottsdale, AZ for 30 years. His specialty was ear, nose and throat and was Chief of Staff of the Hospital, in addition to being on the Board of Medical Examiners. An amazing gifted man.

After the divorce I didn't see him too often, but when I did we enjoyed conversation and we were always pleasant to one another. My two sons, who are now 25 and 27 were very close to their grandfather. I know his passing is very difficult for them and it is moments like this that you must think of the positive memories and the time you shared with him. For me, it is also a time my thoughts of mortality begin to surface.

A regret I have is that I didn't go see him before he passed.  I needed to tell him "thank you" for helping with my son, who is going through his own challenges. I guess you could say I'm grateful and thankful for this man who had a heart of gold and an unwavering love for his family.

I remember visiting my mom and mother-in-law at their respective housing facilities, and as I was walking up the front entrance to enter the building, I had a vision of my sons walking the same path to see me. That is why I'm so passionate about educating and helping others find better health. So they can live a wonderful quality of life. Why do people always wait till it's to late? If only people would take care of themselves while they still can, so much suffering could be avoided.

If I can help one person see the advantage of changing their lifestyle then maybe, just maybe, I can help someone avoid a miserable end of life. It is no fun watching someone you care about begin to deteriorate. It is not too late to do something about it. Begin today to find the courage to change your life so you can enjoy your lifestyle in your later years.

I bid a fond farewell to my father-in-law, who I loved very much and who brought much joy into our families lives. You will be missed Dr. Z! Your next journey begins with a sense of peace.